Thaddy’s Blog

There have been a few times since i started in SL when i have thought there is no way i can go on, this is the end for Thaddy. I have realised that the main reason behind this is a strict fear of change. I’ve been thinking about this a lot in both RL and SL recently, one thing in particular.

Recently i was at a University open day as im switching Uni’s at the end of the year, and i was put into a group with a mixture of ages, some adult learners and some coming straight from college. I wasnt very confident myself being there, but it was obvious some of the people coming from college were very worried about the step up to Uni. One of them asked me how did i deal with the change, and it took me a long while to answer. I told them that it was a very good question, but really its not something someone else can tell you. They seemed ok with the answer but i wasnt, it played through my head for most of the day. How do you cope with change? What is it that allows us to adapt? Towards the end of the day i got speaking to the same person again, and asked them if they were still as nervous. They told me that they liked the place but couldnt get rid of the fear. I asked them if the situation was the same when they made the step up from school to college, to which they replied yes. I then asked how they felt at college, and they replied it was fine and they were happy there. At this point it seemed to click in and they started seem a little happier. The strange thing is, i didnt realise at the time, but i wasnt only trying to figure it out for them, but i was trying to convince myself. We both realised that change is going to happen in life, its unavoidable. I hope that student went home feeling slightly more assured about the step up, because they had got me thinking and there question had made me more assured too.

This is not the only thing that has got me thinking about change. Recently, my life in SL has been turned upside down. I have fallen in love again, which is something i thought i never would. I have started to build and design, and have started to do things i didnt think i could. Change has almost given SL a new lease of life for me, and is showing me why i log in almost everyday. About a month ago, if you had asked me if i wanted anything in my SL to change, i would have said no. I was perfectly happy with how things were. Things have changed since then, and i am now even happier, just something else proving to me why change isnt something that should be feared.

I think the reason i am writing this post is not only to voice my opinion, but to have a reminder for me, that when things have to change or sometimes things dont go the way you want them too, its not the end of the world. I think back to all the times i have thought of leaving second life, and realise all the wonderful people i would not even know existed, let alone be friends with if i had done so. I have found that change is not always a bad thing and definatly should not be feared.